Your Money or Your Wife (..or Husband)Copyright 2002 by Kevin Bidwell,
All-In-One-Business.com
If you have read my articles for any length of
time, you
know that I have regularly reminded you that very few
people
will support you as your start your own online business.
In
fact, almost no one will.
Now, many of us can deal with our friends, our
co-workers
and our neighbors not understanding. But it is a
different
issue when it hits closer to home--when the one who is
against
us starting and building a business is our spouse.
How can we deal with
that? I think there are several keys:
1. Recognize that your
spouse may be right.
I am an optimist. I always think things will
turn out just
fine. In business that is both a asset and a
liability.
Optimists often can't see the big picture.
In my
experience, spouses often act as that balance. They
may be negative
about your business, but they might be
seeing things more clearly than you
are. Take time to
listen and weigh carefully what is being
said.
2. Recognize that NO business is worth more than a
solid
marriage.
Certain areas of life ARE more
important than others--and
your marriage and family are more important than
building
an online business. Period. Now, we do have to work,
but
often that's not the real issue. Very few of the people
who will
read this are already full-time in business for
themselves. If you have
to slow-down or stop building your
business while you build your family, that
just makes sense.
3. Recognize that you may have EARNED the
criticism.
Possibly your spouse has stood by you and supported
you
through the last FIVE sure-fire, no way you can lose biz
opps you have
tried. Maybe that spouse even footed the
bills for your failed
attempts. It may be that you will
need to accept that one of the
consequences there is going
to be a little less faith in your online
endeavors.
4. Recognize that it is easier to work together than
as
adversaries.
Instead of thinking about how
frustrated and unsupported you
feel, try this: begin talking to your
spouse about how you
can work together. Compromise. Get off the
computer some
evening and spend time catering to them. Have a
date.
Will these four keys solve all of your problems? No.
But
they may go a long way toward helping you have a great
business AND a
great marriage.
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Kevin
Bidwell is owner of
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